Posted on | January 27, 2010 | 1 Comment
I have a high-need son. And right now, his need is MOMMY. It’s borderline ridiculous and would be annoying if he weren’t so absolutely adorable. He is perfectly fine in daycare. He has fun, he plays, he enjoys his time with his fabulous teacher. But then, from the moment I pick him up until he is fast asleep, he wants nothing to do with anyone but me. I don’t know what to do with him!
Last night I was supposed to be going to a Junior League meeting at 7pm. I was dressed and ready and handed off J to husband. The minute my hands were off of him, he began to scream as though Husband’s hands were made of hot coals. Seriously. He could have won an Oscar for the performance. So I took him back. Instant quiet. And smiles. What is that about?! So naturally I did not go to the meeting.
It would be a little amusing except that this new phase means I have NO time of my own unless I want to hear him screaming. We tried Husband holding him with me right beside him and one hand on J. That worked for a while until J realized I was not going to pick him up. Commence screaming.
We played a fun game of “off, on” where I would pick him up and he’d get quiet and happy and then put him down with Husband and he’d scream. It was like a horribly off version of The Clapper. He might as well have had a switch on his back that we were flipping. What do I do with this child? Am I supposed to pawn him off on Husband and listen to him scream just so I can eat my dinner with two hands or do I suck it up and multi-task my way through dinner just to appease J?
I don’t know the right answer but I chose multi-tasking. Why should I let J “suffer” just for free time? We used to have this great routine where Husband was the official bedtime guru. Now, if Husband tries, there is screaming. If I try, there is sound sleep half way through my first rendition of “Too Ra Loo Ra Loo Ra.” So you tell me, what would you do?
We voted for peace and quiet and multi-tasking. I ate dinner standing up over the sink with J in one arm. I snuggled and played with J until bedtime and then rocked him to sleep. He was happy the whole time. And what did I get? Time with my HAPPY son and then time to watch the Carolina basketball game and drink a beer. Overall, I think we made a good decision. Time will tell if we’re scarring J for life by giving him everything he wants!