This is Why I Rock

Posted on | August 4, 2010 | 17 Comments

So remember back when I had my first ever hearing? The day that I dropped all the exhibits in a pile on the floor and the day that I felt like a total failure at life?

My old boss emailed me today with some interesting news… I won. That’s right, my superhero status just skyrocketed to six levels of awesomeness!!! (Only in my own head, but that’s okay) I really wanted to “accidentally” email the order to everyone in my new firm but I managed to contain myself. But really? I won. The whole thing. Not one cent to the Claimant. Not one finding of fact that I didn’t spell out for the judge. Everything was exactly as I put it. It was like the Claimant and his attorney never even showed up.

I’d like to say I’m done patting my own back, but no… I’m not. I realized yesterday that I’m pretty awesome.  I spend a lot of time telling myself I’m not that great and that I should make light of my accomplishments so other people don’t hate me. But you know what? Eff that. I rock. Yesterday I won a hearing for my old firm and worked on settlement exposure for my new firm. I also found the time to feed my kid breakfast, ship a box of Savannah treats to a friend I miss terribly, take a tray of cookies over to J’s daycare teachers (because no, I’m not above bribery… we’ve discussed that), buy bottles because we lost a million in the move, cook dinner, do a load of laundry, walk the dog, give J a bath and SHOWER. Yeah, I’m pretty proud of that shower. I should probably divulge that “cooking dinner” involved heating up some peas and soysage for J and shoving pizzas in the oven for Husband and I… but still. I’m awesome.

My sister read a book that talks about women in the workplace. She could tell you the name of it… I can’t remember. But the gist of what she shared with me was that women are valuable in the workplace; often more valuable to their employers than male counterparts. The problem is that we women don’t know how to embrace our awesomeness. We tend to start sentences with “I don’t mean to be rude” or “I’m sorry, but…” or even “Do you mind if…” Men don’t do that, ladies. They don’t pull punches. They don’t beg forgiveness before they even say anything. And they certainly don’t downplay their achievements. Someone tweeted once that women and men would never be equal until women could walk around with  a beer gut and still feel sexy… and as funny as that is, it’s totally true. We place too much emphasis on what other people may or may not think about us. Men only care about one thing… what they think of themselves. And for the most part? They think they’re pretty awesome.

I will never be able to rock a beer gut and feel sexy. I was raised in the South. I’m one step away from being able to say I haven’t left the house without lycra on these thighs since I was 14. But I would like to learn to give myself a little more credit; and I’d like to learn to not feel bad about doing that! Because let’s face it… every single one of us has things we do pretty darn well.

Me? There is room for improvement. But overall, I’m proud of who I am and what I can do. And we all should be! There is just too much “I look fat” and “I’m no good at that” going around. A while back Jenny and Joanna talked about Embracing Your Awesome and while I thought it was a great concept, I wasn’t quite ready to blog on, well, being awesome. Because as women we are taught that saying we’re good at something is bragging and bragging is … naughty. It’s a dirty word. Especially for Southern women. We are supposed to be demure and sidestep compliments like Wilt Chamberlain must have dodged paternity suits. We are supposed to respond to “You look nice today” with “Oh, gosh. My hair is a mess and this outfit? It’s all wrinkly and it was only seven dollars and honestly I had to get up at 3 am just to fix my make up. But YOU look fantastic! I wish I were you!”

So what happens when we buck that tradition? What happens if for one week we accept compliments without apologies and without contradiction. What happens if when we’re asked what we did with our day, we actually say what we did and say it with pride. What if we say “I wrote a kick arse brief and sent it out and then still had time to play with my kid and I feel pretty good about it!” Will people look at us funny? Will they think we’re conceited? And honestly, why should we care. We should be able to toot our own horn any time we want to.

So this is me tooting my horn. I am a good mother. I am a damn good lawyer and a pretty good writer. I multitask like a mo-fo and I can recite almost every word of Steel Magnolias, Shag, and The Princess Bride without even having the movie on. I make a mean Tiramisu Cake and I mix a pretty good pina colada from scratch. I have really pretty hair that is finally it’s natural color and I’m finally embracing it. I have great eyes and yeah, I have big boobs. I am a fast typer and an even faster reader. I’m good in a crisis and I hope I’m a good friend… I certainly try to be.

And that is why I rock.

Why do YOU rock? Embrace your awesome and spend just one day being open to the fact that you are somebody amazing. You can even start being MORE awesome by donating to the Grady Family!


17 Responses to “This is Why I Rock”

  1. ~*Jess*~
    August 4th, 2010 @ 1:12 pm

    You do rock and kick ass on that win. Good job!

  2. Cybil
    August 4th, 2010 @ 1:30 pm

    You TOTALLY Rock! I think that embracing our professional awesomeness gets easier the older we get. I have a few years on you, but I have noticed my confidence increasing as I get older.

    We walk a fine line between being viewed as "bitchy" versus direct. Men don't walk that same line.


  3. Mrs. MidAtlantic
    August 4th, 2010 @ 1:44 pm

    You are SuperMom! Cape and all 🙂

  4. Raising Madison
    August 4th, 2010 @ 2:11 pm

    You do rock! You make me get excited about the possibility of being back in the work place and being successful at something other than being a mom. There are days it tears me apart but posts like this get me excited because I can do that and still be a great mom!

  5. amy
    August 4th, 2010 @ 2:39 pm

    rock on with yo' bad ass self doo-dah 🙂
    Good job!

    And the book is Womenomics….i could go on and on about the how amazing the ideas in that are!!

  6. Mama Lungo
    August 4th, 2010 @ 2:41 pm

    That is great! Congrats!!

  7. Lisa
    August 4th, 2010 @ 3:35 pm

    Awesome post!! Makes me want to stand up in my office and fist-pump! Go you! Go me!
    And congrats on the win in court…but just to clarify, you would rock without it, too!

  8. Metta1313
    August 4th, 2010 @ 4:56 pm

    Well I could have told you that you rock! And congrats on the case.

  9. KLZ
    August 4th, 2010 @ 6:15 pm


    I'm super stoked about this and I am not even your client! Woohoo, go Law Momma. Chalking one up for awesome women everywhere!

  10. Mommarazzi
    August 4th, 2010 @ 6:54 pm

    Congrats on your win! That's really something to be proud of!
    I'm with you…Southern women always sidestep compliments. We need to stop and just say thank you!!
    I LOVE Steel Magnolias. Favorite movie EVER.

  11. Elizabeth
    August 4th, 2010 @ 7:22 pm

    Thanks for posting this! Although I'm not a working mom, I am a working woman and we DO need to pat ourselves on the back.

    Great post!

  12. Anne
    August 4th, 2010 @ 7:43 pm

    You do rock! Nothing feels better than seeing an order that says word for word what you wrote down.

    You kick ass, lawmomma!

  13. Anonymous
    August 4th, 2010 @ 8:07 pm

    You made my day, been waiting a LONG time to hear you say these words!

  14. Keeping Up With Kaegan
    August 4th, 2010 @ 9:26 pm

    Awesome post. Love the inspiration, thanks for that. 🙂

  15. The Empress
    August 4th, 2010 @ 10:51 pm

    You have a lot to be proud of. Congratulations.

  16. JillyB
    August 5th, 2010 @ 4:01 am

    Congratulations! You ROCK!!!!!

  17. The Insanity of Yca
    August 7th, 2010 @ 11:08 pm

    You do rock, and SO DO I!! I've decided that on my fb page from now on, Saturdays is "We Rock Day", and we can all post why we rock this week. Thank you, Law Momma … you are awesome!

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