All the Single Mommas….

Posted on | December 13, 2010 | 25 Comments

I could not be a single mother. Or at least not a single stay at home mother… this weekend nearly broke me. There was a moment, a moment I’m not proud of, where I thought “Yes. Yes, I COULD murder a girl scout if someone promised me a bottle of wine for my efforts.”

What? I said I wasn’t proud of it!

J decided that he wanted to soak up as much Mommy time as possible and that translated into no napping. So my happy little homemaker weekend turned into Apocalypse Now. I had big plans. I was gonna bake cookies and make a gingerbread house and clean the house and do laundry and be all Christmas-fairy and crap. I was planning a fun weekend with my little boy.  Only my plans, of course, centered around a lovely 2 hour window each day where my child would be asleep. Those would be the two hours when the cleaning and the cooking and the laundry would take place. Those would be the hours that I would get to visit on twitter and enjoy some Christmas music. Those would be my fun little “break” in the middle of my single-momming-it-hood. It got ugly, people. By the second day of no napping, I was on the verge of a mental breakdown. J was so tired he had resorted to caveman-esque grunting and yes, even BITING, to get what he wanted. I had been kicked, stepped on, slapped, bitten, punched, and screamed at by a pint size dictator.

Suffice to say, by the time Husband got home around 7:30 on Sunday night, I was a basketcase. I was out of medication. I was sleep-deprived. I WAS OUT OF WINE. It was nasty.

I don’t know how you single moms do it, honestly. I just don’t know. You must be superheros. That’s the only explanation that makes any sense. And because I just LOVE a good superhero, I think you deserve some recognition. So here’s what I’m gonna do… I’m gonna give something away to one lucky single mother.

Why? Because you don’t get enough recognition for all you do. Because no one understands just how hard it is to be you and to be everything to your little ones. Because it’s Christmas time and you deserve someone to spoil you rotten.

If you’re a single mom or you know a single mom who deserves something special, leave a comment here and tell me who they are and why they are amazing… or who YOU are and why YOU are amazing. Besides, you know, being a superhero single mom. I don’t mean to exclude the single dads who are also amazing… but I don’t really know what kind of stuff a single dad would like so sorry, dudes. You’re out of luck on this one… this one’s for the ladies.

Here’s what you’ll win… a $10 gift card to Starbucks for a warm treat; a $50 gift certificate to Vintage Pearl for something shiny all for you; a $15 gift card to Bath and Body Works for much needed (I’m sure) pampering; and a $25 Visa Gift Card to help with all those post holiday bills. If I did my math correctly, that’s a $100 value just for one lucky single momma. 

How to enter:
Step one: Leave a comment telling me who you’d nominate and why.
Step two: Tweet about this contest for an extra entry (and comment letting me know you did)
Step Three: Anxiously await Saturday’s post that tells who won.

And you single mommas deserve it. I only wish I could give something to every single one of you!!!


25 Responses to “All the Single Mommas….”

  1. Liz C.
    December 13th, 2010 @ 3:02 pm

    I nominate my friend Chris, who is a newly-single mom slogging along being a freakin' SUPERHERO like I can't even wrap my brain around. I'd love to send her a gift like that. Thanks for hosting the giveaway! I'm with you, I don't know how single moms do it, either — I'm just grateful that they do.

  2. Katie Jones
    December 13th, 2010 @ 3:32 pm

    Okay, so I'm not *technically* a single mom because I'm married. BUT-my husband is out of town 4-5 days each week. I wake up alone, I go to bed alone, I do bathtime alone, make dinner alone. I am alone with the kidlet 80% of the time. So I am entering myself. Its freakin' hard and I dont know exactly how I do it, I just do what has to be done. And there is also wine : )

  3. Shelley
    December 13th, 2010 @ 3:57 pm

    I nominate my life-long friend Katy. She works full time, goes to school full time, and is a mother full time. She manages to find time to take her daughter bowling once a week. I'm not sure I could do school and work and a kid.

  4. Rebecca Y.
    December 13th, 2010 @ 4:05 pm

    I nominate my friend Jess. She became a single mom shortly after her second child was born. I don't know how she does it but she handles full-time work and raising two rambunctious children, aged 3 1/2 and 1, seamlessly, with little if any help from her soon to be ex.

  5. Lisa W
    December 13th, 2010 @ 4:09 pm

    I'm also nominating my friend Jess…this is the same Jess nominated by Rebecca Y above. Jess is an awesome mom, and an awesome coworker, and she deserves to be nominated twice!! I have no idea how she does everything that she does…and she does it all well!

  6. The Thomsons
    December 13th, 2010 @ 4:10 pm

    I nominate my sister, Diana. She has 3 kids (almost 15, 13, and 8) and works full time. She starts her mornings at 4:30 am and doesn't end them until well after 10:00 pm. She carpools for swimteam and basketball, she does all the doctors visits and teacher conferences. She has to find a way to make it through each month with the pathetic amount of child support she gets and most months her ex doesn't pay the full amount he owes. Still, she finds a way to make her kids' lives fun, happy and healthy. She is Amazing!

  7. Roxy
    December 13th, 2010 @ 5:18 pm

    I would like to nominate my sister Rachel.
    Rachel became pregnant one month after graduating high school. She found out about her pregnancy three weeks after breaking up with the father of her child. He has not even met his daughter.
    Despite the difficulty of being a young mother, Rachel goes to school full time, where she studies to become a physician's assistant. Rachel is also a member of the flag core for the college marching band. Somehow, my sister manages to care for her infant daughter, complete her school work, and devote time to marching band, where she is a valued member. Many girls her age are attending college parties or hooking up with different men; but my sister spends her evenings taking care of her daughter, alone.
    As a fellow student, I do not understand how she manages it all, but she does. I would love for Rachel to be able to pamper herself for once. I would even volunteer to babysit. 🙂

  8. PsychoTwin
    December 13th, 2010 @ 5:28 pm

    I nominate my old roommate. The moment she realised she was pregnant, the dad ran away. She finished school, earned a 4.0, gave birth, and threw her whole heart into raising her beautiful girl.
    I am so amazed at all the crafty fun things they do. and yes, she works too.
    There are of course the court battles with a father who doesn't try to see his child but wants to sue for random other stuff.

  9. ~*Jess*~
    December 13th, 2010 @ 5:39 pm

    I nominate Letty, one of my very best friends and one of the women I look up to as my momma role model when I need help and can't call mine.

    She has busted her butt to raise the most intelligent, well behaved, well mannered, beautiful 14 year old that I've ever met. Not to mention she's a genius and taking biomed classes in 9th grade.

    My friend is so giving all the time and sacrifices so much to make sure that everyone around here is taken care of before she even begins to think of herself. She never splurges for herself and she deserves the pampering. And I love her!

  10. ~*Jess*~
    December 13th, 2010 @ 5:47 pm
  11. Kim
    December 13th, 2010 @ 9:12 pm

    I was going to nominate myself but I think there are others nominated who are more deserving. But every single mom, and every mom, deserves kudos. It's not easy no matter how you slice it.

  12. Nicci @ Changing the Universe
    December 14th, 2010 @ 2:27 am

    I nominate my mom. When my dad left, he left her with a huge mortgage and paid the absolute bare minimum that the state would allow him to pay. Oh, and he worked side jobs that he "forgot" to report to the state, so my mom (thus by extension, us) never got to see.

    She didn't go to college, thus had a low paying job as a receptionist in a school. Which meant three months a year without a paycheck, living solely on child support and inheritance money from her father who died the year before my dad left.

    And yet? We never knew it. We never knew of the struggles she went through financially. We never saw the disconnection notices. We never went without. We never saw the crippling depression that hit her when we weren't home. We never saw just how many wine and beer bottles she was throwing away. We never saw many tears. We just saw her pick up and do the very best she could with what little she had. We never felt as though we were living without. She always put us first.

    She is an amazing woman. She makes me feel like I will NEVER be the mother that she was/is to us. She totally and completely deserves this prize.

  13. Nicci @ Changing the Universe
    December 14th, 2010 @ 2:33 am

    twittered (sticky41284)

  14. Samantha
    December 14th, 2010 @ 2:39 am

    I nominate my cousin, Michaeleen. She works her butt off to raise her seven year old daughter without any support from her ex – he doesn't pay his required child support and doesn't ever see his daughter. She put herself through college with a child and I am so proud of her. This summer she saved to take her daughter to the American Girl store in NYC and her daughter was so excited she cried! She is really a great mom and deserves some pampering as well as a little financial relief.

  15. kyouell
    December 14th, 2010 @ 3:51 am

    I nominate Single Mom Survives ( because she's had it hard, but keeps her head up. She's like Aunt Becky of Mommy Wants Vodka, but a single mom. Also she just had to have surgery to have a fibroid removed and needs some love.

  16. kyouell
    December 14th, 2010 @ 3:55 am

    I had already tweeted about the contest before I came and read the full story:!/guiltysquid/status/14508779118788608 (ok, so I RT Guilty Squid.)

  17. legallyinsanemommy
    December 14th, 2010 @ 1:46 pm

    I'm not a single mom but my husband does work 2nd shift so I play one several evenings a week. It sucks. One of my best friends, however, is a full-time single mom. She inspires me. And when I feel like I've had a major parenting fail, she laughs me out of my sulkiness. Her name is Kim and she posts on Not Like the Brochure ( Kim doesn't often recognize what an awesome job she is doing with her daughter. Her daughter is a wonderfully, cute, adorable and smart little girl. Kim shares stories and comments that her daughter makes which often have me in tears of laughter. I think Kim is an inspiration to all single moms (and those of us that play one on occasion).

  18. stark. raving. mad. mommy.
    December 14th, 2010 @ 1:55 pm

    I have a bunch of awesome single mama friends, but I'm also going to nominate Single Mom Survives ( because she is hiLARious. And, yes, she just had major surgery, and could use some love. Also someone to go out and pick up her Vicodin for her.

  19. stark. raving. mad. mommy.
    December 14th, 2010 @ 1:58 pm

    Tweeted! "I nominated @snglemomsurvives for @lawmomma77's fabulous single mama giveaway!"

  20. Erin
    December 14th, 2010 @ 2:18 pm

    I nominate a friend who recently became a single mom when her little one was born at 25 weeks. I don't know how on earth she manages it on her own. What a stressful thing to have to go through under any circumstances!

  21. Amy
    December 14th, 2010 @ 3:24 pm

    I'm going to nominate the gal at Single Mom Survives even though her post surgery drugged up tweets weren't as embarrassing as I had hoped. She's as funny as they come. Check her out:

  22. Delia
    December 14th, 2010 @ 4:51 pm

    I want to nominate my friend, Maegan. A few years ago Maegan found out she was pregnant. We worked together at the time and every day I watched her go through her pregnancy alone. I watched the heartbreak, anger, sadness and eventually, the relief that the father didn't want to be a father. He's never met his son!
    Now I see her try to be both a mom and a dad to that little boy. He will be 4 next week and after having my own son this year I realize daily just how strong she really is. I have so much help and support from my husband and to realize that she's done everything alone makes me sad for her and makes me proud to be her friend.
    I'm proud of her for toughing it out day after day. I never realized how amazing she really is until I had my own child. It hasn't been easy for them – and I know it won't always be easy in the future, but her son is happy, healthy and has one of the best moms out there!

  23. Delia
    December 14th, 2010 @ 4:53 pm

    I tweeted!

  24. Lizzy B.
    December 14th, 2010 @ 7:03 pm

    My good friend Roxy's sister, Rachel (mentioned above) gets another nod from me. She's a young college student and a mom who deserves something special.

  25. Lizzy B.
    December 14th, 2010 @ 7:05 pm

    Also, I totally tweeted.

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