Something’s Got to Give…

Posted on | February 17, 2011 | 7 Comments

I don’t know how to help my son.

Tonight he felt warm so I took his temperature and it registered at 102.1.  This marks the fourth week out of the seven weeks so far in 2011 that he has spiked a fever over 101. And over 101 means no daycare. Which means either Husband or I have to miss work.  And missing work is the least of my concerns… I mean, it sucks, but ultimately I just want to know why my son can’t seem to get well.

Something’s got to give, right?

Something’s got to change.

Somehow we have to find a way to help this little guy stay well.

We have to find a way to get him healthy and keep him there.  We have to find a way to stop spending his college fund on doctor’s visits before he even reaches kindergarten.

I’m at a loss.  I feel like I’m being pulled in two completely different directions… on the one hand, I need to be at work and billing my hours.  On the other? I need to be at home, taking care of my son. I’m exhausted from the stress of it all. Tomorrow marks the third time this year that I’ve taken J to work with me.

Something’s got to give.


7 Responses to “Something’s Got to Give…”

  1. Heather
    February 17th, 2011 @ 2:01 am

    Are you channeling my life? This was me today. Rebecca was sick the holiday week of 2010, and she got sick twice already in 2011, one time was a horrible virus that took us to the doctor twice. Just when I thought she was better, she got an ear infection (even with TUBES! We think some earwax blocked it….) So after being on antibiotic drops since last Friday, I got “the call” late in the afternoon that she had a 103 degree fever. So, unless her fever is clear tomorrow morning (doubtful), I will not be able to bring her to daycare on Friday. I’m worried — I mean I know she’s in daycare and it’s a germ factory, but this is starting to get ridiculous…

    I work part-time (I’m a software engineer), but the deadlines don’t change with my schedule. I’m afraid that if I don’t pull my weight, I will let my team down, and I’ll get told that things “aren’t working out”.

    And I know nothing should come before my daughter, but it still stresses me out. I want everything to be OK, and a big part of that is my daughter staying healthy for, say, more than a week…

  2. Mom on a Line
    February 17th, 2011 @ 2:36 am

    It is extraordinarily hard balancing work with small kids. What usually gives for me, is sleep. Not the healthiest, but such is life. Last week, my son was sick and had to be home from school for 3 days. My daughter has been sick and on antibiotics since November. She is in the hospital now with a virus. My husband and I take turns spending 24 hours at the hospital and the next 24 hours catching up on sleep, spending time with our son, and going to the office. It is hard, but we hold out hope that as both kids get older, they will have stronger immune systems and should not get as sick as frequently. In the mean time, we try to show our bosses we can work hard and be trusted to still get everything done (even if sleep gets pushed aside in flu season). Good luck!

  3. Elizabeth
    February 17th, 2011 @ 2:49 am

    I wish I lived closer to you. I’d be your plan B in a heartbeat. At least you work in a place where taking him is an option. Not the best option, admittedly, but an option. Also, there is a daycare place her in VA called Rainbow Station that actually has a sick wing. Of course, it probably costs $1000 a week. Perhaps you could try to find a grad student (NOT from SCAD!! Dear God, NOT from SCAD!) or something who could pinch hit nanny on sick days?

  4. aim
    February 17th, 2011 @ 11:58 am

    Hey—–hes building up his immune system and then he’ll stop getting sick i bet. Thats what happened with Walker. And also? Elderberry syrup. Been shown in studies to be effective against many strains of flu and also other viruses. It also tastes delicious. It will shorten the virus, and you could certainly give it when he seems “off” like he is getting sick.
    Echinacea tincture (glycerine for kids) is also great for heading off viruses, and you can give it say 4-5 days a week for a month or so (to get you into spring) to keep him from getting sick…..just my herbalist two cents 😉

  5. Suz B
    February 17th, 2011 @ 3:09 pm

    I’m so sorry! No advice for Jude or you, but I really hope he feels better thus you feel better about it soon!

  6. Toni
    February 17th, 2011 @ 3:24 pm

    I wish I had advice for you, but I just wanted to say I hope J gets better soon!

  7. Jennifer
    February 17th, 2011 @ 4:01 pm

    I know this is going to sound horrible. Give him some motrin and if he wakes up in the morning with no fever then send him to daycare. If his fever goes back up again, pick him up and take him to the doctor.

    He is hitting the age right now where his little immune system is kicking in. You know what makes an immune system stronger? Getting sick. And you can trust me because I’ve done tons of research on this with both kids.

    If you have been taking him to the doctor all of these times and it is nothing serious (like maybe he needs tubes or something) then you’ve got to relax. I know it is hard. Trust me, I know. But it is best for you and best for him.

    Another thing my doctor had me do was track my daughter’s temp for a month in the morning and evening. It showed a pattern that she just runs a higher temp at night and that’s normal for her. It didn’t mean she was sick. It just meant that’s the way her body worked.

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