Posted on | June 13, 2012 | 20 Comments
One of the hardest things to get used to, now that I’m single again, is the concept that there are men out there who will not and do not love my child. There are men who actually think that J is a mark in the negative column of their pro/con list on me… men who do not understand that he is the greatest “Pro” ever to be listed.
Yesterday afternoon, I got a text from the guy I’d gone out with on Saturday and Monday. He was up front and honest, which I appreciated, but he basically said he wasn’t 100% sure about dating a woman with a child.
He basically said that J was in the “con” box and was outweighing any and all “pros” he had listed.
My first instinct, as a mother, was to claw his eyes out for even hinting that my child was a drawback… a reason not to date me. But ultimately I realized he was doing me a favor. Because I don’t need a man in my life who doesn’t understand who the most important person in the world is to me. I don’t need a man who even STARTS to list J in the con list…. didn’t I already go through that once with a different man?
Still, it is hard to bear the weight of two souls in this new world of dating. It is hard to know that there are people out there who will try to separate me from J, wondering if there’s a way to date only one of us.
To any interested in knowing?
We’re a package deal.
We’re two peas in a pod.
We’re joined at the heart and if given the option to decide between a lover and my child?
I will always choose my child.