Posted on | March 26, 2013 | 12 Comments
I don’t know what the Supreme Court of the United States is going to do today. I know what I’d like for them to do, know what I believe the right thing is for them to do, but I don’t know what they will do.
What I do know is this… at the end of the day, it’s not going to change, forbid, deny, or extinguish the love that two consenting adults feel for each other. Will it maybe limit their possibilities? Yes. Will it maybe prevent them from doing things they might otherwise do? Absolutely. But it will not change their love. And I guess the question, then, is why does it matter? If, at the end of the day, it doesn’t change the base fact that two people love each other and spend their lives together, then why do so many people get in a rage, one way or the other, over the title given to that love?
In my opinion, it’s pretty simple. It’s important because, in a microcosm, it plays out the same scenario we’ve been living and reliving throughout the life of this country. Even though it will not change love or hearts or minds or beliefs, recognizing that men and women are free to love and marry any consenting adult they choose does more than put a title on love… it gives power to the powerless, voices to the voiceless, and strength to the weak. It does what “freedom of religion” did for Catholics and Protestants who immigrated here. It does what emancipation and civil rights did for the African American community. It does what we, as a country, swear allegiance to… or used to… to one nation, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.
I don’t know what your thoughts are on gay marriage but I know that you are fortunate to live in a country that allows you to have those thoughts and to express them freely. I don’t know what your beliefs are or on what foundation you build your legacy of love, but what I do know is that giving voices to those who previously were silenced is always a good thing. Listening is never harmful. Giving hope to people who are hopeless is never a negative. Spreading hope is never hurtful. Giving strength to someone who is falling apart at the seams is the best way to glorify and love and praise whatever it is that you glorify and love and praise.
I don’t strive to change your thoughts on gay marriage because at the end of the day, they are your thoughts to have, your beliefs to honor and your opinions to grow. But while I don’t strive to change your heart, I care about your heart; I care about the hearts of ALL the people around me and I will always believe with my whole heart that by bolstering the hearts of others, we only strengthen our own.
I don’t know what the Supreme Court will do today, on the issue of same-sex marriage, but I know that it will not change love. And love, my dear voyeurs, is one thing that is always worth fighting for… even if it’s not your own.