Surviving Divorce: Part Five

One of the most important things you can do when you’re newly divorced is to look very very closely at your life.  Look at the way you interact with your ex.  Look at the way you interact with your family.  Pay close attention to how you’re defining yourself and your life.  Then turn your life [...]

Surviving Divorce: Part Four

At some point during this long process, you will start to scroll down the list of contacts in your phone, wondering which one of those names would be okay with being an ear for your tears.  You will scroll through the list at least five times before you give up and cry harder, believing that [...]

Surviving Divorce: Part Three

For me, one of the hardest things about losing my marriage, was the loss of my safety net.  It was as though divorce simultaneously pushed me off the tightrope and pulled free the net below me, leaving me in a free fall from which there was no escape.  I kept thinking someone would swoop in [...]

Surviving Divorce: Part Two

There will be days, there are days, when the rush of emotion is absent.  There are or will be days when you feel absolutely nothing, you feel totally numb to the world around you.  There are days when you will climb out of bed but won’t feel your feet against the floor because you, quite [...]

Surviving Divorce: Part One

Don’t let the title mislead you… there is no set of rules that is going to get you through what you’re facing.  There is no expert, no secret, no magic pill you can take that will make you wake up tomorrow morning and feel like you can breathe in air again without wanting to die. [...]

Having it All

I just got back to work after an hour luncheon with some law students at my old law school.  The purpose of the meeting was to impart all of my glorious wisdom re: being a woman lawyer to a group of women who are in the process of, well,  becoming lawyers.  It was eye opening. [...]

New Mother Advice

This has been a sad week.  And if there’s one thing I have taken out of this week it is that I was uninformed as a new mother. See, I took J to the grocery store with me every time I went.  I enjoyed the oohs and ahhs from fellow shoppers.  I enjoyed having him [...]

How to Raise a Child

Everyone and their grandmother’s second cousin has an opinion on how to properly raise a child.  And those opinions start cropping up the minute you announce to the world that you’re expecting. “Don’t eat too much dairy or your child will have a milk allergy!” “If you want your child to be smart, play Mozart [...]

What I’ve Learned

The past two and a half months have been a learning curve for me.  I’ve done things I never thought I’d have to do.  I’ve said things I never thought I’d say, signed things I never thought I’d sign, and become things I never thought I’d become.  But mostly, I’ve just been learning.  I’ve learned [...]

I am NOT a supermodel.

On Friday, I was fortunate enough to have a hair appointment at 3:00.  I say that I was fortunate for several reasons, the least of which is my actual hair. See, I had to take J to work with me on Friday.  He was running a high fever and was stuck to me like velcro.  [...]