Moving Forward

Today I left work early because the tears became too much. It was around ten after four and I cranked up the engine and drove north, though daycare is south. I took the ramp onto the highway and headed towards Forsyth, thinking about what would happen if I just kept driving and never turned back.  […]

The Taking Away

When you get engaged, the giving begins.  As a woman, you first receive a ring and then you receive showers full of toaster ovens, china patterns, and various and assorted nicknacks.  Then you are given a party which begins with the giving of an oath and the exchanging of rings.  At the end of the […]

Re-Writing the Stories

When I was a high school senior, I would walk around thinking “This is the last first day of school as a high school student” or later “this is my last Monday in high school.” It somehow made the time fly by a little faster, breaking it up into intervals of final firsts.  In 2007, […]

The Hardest Part (so far)

Yesterday, for the first time, I couldn’t fix what was hurting my son. He stood there in the kitchen, tears welling in his eyes, his face crumpling before me. He did not want his father to leave. He wanted his Dada to stay longer to play with him, to love him, to just be in […]


I have mixed feelings about the next few weeks. On the one hand, I know it’s time to pick up the pieces of my heart and move on. I know it will be good to let go of the hope that he will change, that he will somehow become the man I know he could […]


Around 3:00 on Friday, the mail was passed out at the office.  My boss’s secretary stepped tentatively into my office with a look of concern. “It wasn’t marked personal,” she explained, holding out the opened mail. “I wouldn’t have opened it if it said personal.” In her hand was a thick white envelope with my […]

It’s Just a Turtle…

It’s so silly. It was just a little red turtle, nothing fancy.  I think it cost less than $2 when we bought it.  We named him “Todd” because we bought him in Todd, North Carolina, at a little General Store.  I worked the summer after my second year of law school in Boone, North Carolina.  […]

Splitting the Seam

Had you asked me six months ago if I thought I was a smart girl, I would have told you no but I would have meant yes.  I would have rolled my eyes a little, maybe.  I would have probably made a smart aleck comment about how I was educated but not smart… but deep […]


My attorney sends me emails entitled “R v R.”  As though the letters are at war.  As though we stand as equals, squared up to duel it out in the American justice system.  As though we are the same person… “R.”  Both of us “R.” We were the same once, I think.  We had the same dreams […]

No Avoiding It Now

The idea of divorce comes at you hard and fast.  A freight train, barreling over your heart and mind, leaving you little time to shield yourself, little time to run for cover, and little time to prepare.  The first few weeks are like one long nightmare.  You wade through your days, trudging amidst the thick […]

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