And the Greatest of These is Love.

Posted on | March 26, 2013 | 12 Comments

I don’t know what the Supreme Court of the United States is going to do today.  I know what I’d like for them to do, know what I believe the right thing is for them to do, but I don’t know what they will do.

What I do know is this… at the end of the day, it’s not going to change, forbid, deny, or extinguish the love that two consenting adults feel for each other.  Will it maybe limit their possibilities? Yes.  Will it maybe prevent them from doing things they might otherwise do? Absolutely.  But it will not change their love. And I guess the question, then, is why does it matter?  If, at the end of the day, it doesn’t change the base fact that two people love each other and spend their lives together, then why do so many people get in a rage, one way or the other, over the title given to that love?

In my opinion, it’s pretty simple.  It’s important because, in a microcosm, it plays out the same scenario we’ve been living and reliving throughout the life of this country.  Even though it will not change love or hearts or minds or beliefs, recognizing that men and women are free to love and marry any consenting adult they choose does more than put a title on love… it gives power to the powerless, voices to the voiceless, and strength to the weak.  It does what “freedom of religion” did for Catholics and Protestants who immigrated here.  It does what emancipation and civil rights did for the African American community.  It does what we, as a country, swear allegiance to… or used to… to one nation, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.

I don’t know what your thoughts are on gay marriage but I know that you are fortunate to live in a country that allows you to have those thoughts and to express them freely.  I don’t know what your beliefs are or on what foundation you build your legacy of love, but what I do know is that giving voices to those who previously were silenced is always a good thing.  Listening is never harmful.  Giving hope to people who are hopeless is never a negative.  Spreading hope is never hurtful.  Giving strength to someone who is falling apart at the seams is the best way to glorify and love and praise whatever it is that you glorify and love and praise.

I don’t strive to change your thoughts on gay marriage because at the end of the day, they are your thoughts to have, your beliefs to honor and your opinions to grow.  But while I don’t strive to change your heart, I care about your heart; I care about the hearts of ALL the people around me and I will always believe with my whole heart that by bolstering the hearts of others, we only strengthen our own.

I don’t know what the Supreme Court will do today, on the issue of same-sex marriage, but I know that it will not change love.  And love, my dear voyeurs, is one thing that is always worth fighting for… even if it’s not your own.





12 Responses to “And the Greatest of These is Love.”

  1. Type A Nightmare
    March 26th, 2013 @ 10:33 am

    Beautifully written by a beautiful heart! I struggle with my thoughts and opinions on this. The Southern Baptist in me believes that I’m supposed to stand strongly against homosexuality and the “rules” part of me worries how recognizing homosexuality as equal to heterosexuality will change paperwork etc, but my heart… my heart wants everyone to find their person – whatever their race, religion, gender, etc. – to be happy. So at the end of the day, with all of my conflicting parts… my heart feels the strongest about this.

  2. Law Momma
    March 26th, 2013 @ 10:50 am

    I have that inner Southern Baptist, too. But my other inner voice is screaming “love” and it is louder. 🙂

  3. Guest
    March 26th, 2013 @ 10:39 am

    Love these words here.
    Building hope, and families … and more love.
    Surely the more love we have, the happier the world can be.
    After all, it makes the world go around xxx

  4. Nicole Morgan
    March 26th, 2013 @ 10:41 am

    Love these words here.
    Building hope, and families … and more love.
    Surely the more love we have, the happier the world can be.
    After all, it makes the world go around xxx

  5. Law Momma
    March 26th, 2013 @ 10:50 am

    Agreed. So agreed.

  6. Andrea B
    March 26th, 2013 @ 10:48 am

    Beautifully said.

  7. Law Momma
    March 26th, 2013 @ 10:55 am

    Thanks, you.

  8. Erin Margolin
    March 26th, 2013 @ 11:51 am

    Love this so hard, K. XOXOXOXOX

  9. lawmomma
    March 26th, 2013 @ 12:02 pm

    Thanks, friend. Love right back atcha!

  10. Mrs. Burks
    March 26th, 2013 @ 1:21 pm

    Beautifully put. I’m also a recovering Southern Baptist, and I tell anyone who wants to argue against marriage equality the same thing that Jesus said about homosexuality: ” .” All I know is He commanded me as a Christian to love, and that’s what I’m going to do.

  11. lawmomma
    March 26th, 2013 @ 1:23 pm

    EXACTLY! I don’t know how to be perfect… it’s against everything inside of me to be that way. But I can emulate Christ and to do that? I must love. It’s all I’ve got to get me to God, and if it’s enough for Him, it’s darn sure enough for me.

  12. pinkflipflops44
    March 30th, 2013 @ 9:27 am

    Completely agree.

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